Matthew Oster

Memorial Visitation at Funeral Home

4:00 pm - 7:00 pm
Thursday, July 21, 2022
Farrell - Ryan Funeral Home
777 Long Pond Road
Rochester, New York, United States

Memorial Service

10:30 am
Friday, July 22, 2022
Holy Cross Church
4492 Lake Avenue
Rochester, New York, United States

Obituary of Matthew Oster

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Matthew (Matty) Patrick Oster

Joined Heaven’s Band July 11, 2022 at the age of 60. He is predeceased by his parents John & Patricia Oster; brother Robert Oster; nephew Brian Oster; father-in-law Edvard P. Conway III; brother-in-law Michael Conway.  Survived by his love of 35 years, his forever person, Donna Conway; siblings John (Loron), Charlie (Pat), Lisa (Jim) Mucica, and Joe (Carol); sister-in-law Annie Oster; mother-in-law Barbara J. Conway; brother-in-law Edvard P. (Barbara R.) Conway IV; sister-in-law Karen (Eric) Meyris; well-loved nieces & nephews; many wonderful cousins and countless treasured friends.  Heartfelt gratitude to all those that loved and supported Matt.

Matt was the last child born into the Oster family in 1962.  He cherished his childhood and all the mayhem he caused growing up with his parents and five siblings at 40 Edgemere Drive.  Matt’s family was active in the Holy Cross Community where he attended school through 8th grade and later graduated from Cardinal Mooney High School.  Matt went on to follow the family business as a dental technician with his brother Bob.  He later decided to pursue other avenues: painter with Casey Interiors, bartender at Webster Golf Club and cook at the University of Rochester. 

Living on the lake, Matt was in his element swimming, boating, fishing, water skiing, blowing up rockets and building bonfires.   Matt relished his time cooking with family and friends for holidays, birthdays, dinners and impromptu gatherings.  He especially enjoyed sharing music for his guests that included a wide array of musical genres; which was questionably appreciated by others.  Matt’s passions and talents were evident in his unique ability to recite song lyrics and play music by ear.  He could strum a tune on the guitar and strike the keys on the piano to play any song he heard.   However, jamming with the Oster family was by far his favorite way to play music.

Those who were fortunate to know Matt surely enjoyed having thoughtful conversations with him which were peppered with wit and humor.  He had a way of making people feel special by asking specific questions just about them.  He was always so attentive, kind and had a knack for remembering even the smallest details anyone shared.  His personal conversations created those special bonds he had with so many people.

Matt was also a motorhead and classic car enthusiast.  He had several unique vehicles throughout his life, his favorites being those that barely fit in a garage.  Despite his vision loss, Matt recently purchased a 1977 Lincoln Continental Mark V and was so looking forward to riding around and showing off his classic style.

Matt met Donna in 1987 which began their 35 years together.   They lived in 2 homes that they spent time remodeling and making their own to entertain and host holidays and parties.  They enjoyed traveling, cooking, entertaining, boating, music and spending time with their family and friends.  Though Matt claimed he never wanted or liked cats, he cared for and became attached to each one that Donna discreetly brought home.  

Matt was a unique presence in this world and will be sorely missed.  His generosity and selflessness were like no other.  He was so giving and never wanted to burden anyone.   Please remember Matty by sharing a story, listening to offbeat music, casting some bait, jumping the waves, grilling up some meat or taking a ride in your favorite car with the windows down.   Smile when you think of him and live your life to the fullest! 

“The story of life is quicker than the wink of an eye, the story of love is hello and goodbye…until we meet again” -Jimi Hendrix

Calling hours will be held 4-7 on Thursday, July 21, at Farrell-Ryan Funeral Home, 777 Long Pond Road. Memorial mass 10:30 Friday, July 22, at Holy Cross Church. In lieu of flowers, contributions can be made in his memory to the Choroideremia Research Foundation at

The mass will be live streamed at

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